A few days ago, as an American friend of mine was telling me all about her new boyfriend and how he had asked her out with flowers, I realized how different courtship and dating is for teens in France and the US. Americans go on formal dates; we keep things secret. The word “date” has no equivalent in French, and it’s simply because we don’t go on them.
Americans only say “I love you” after months of dating. You might wonder how people get to know each other then.
And when we do ask our love interest if he wants to have a relationship, it’s because we already kissed or at least gotten really close. There’s no such thing as DTR (Defining The Relationship) because exclusivity is implied.
Once two people kiss while sober (French teenagers drink a lot, as it’s legal), they can already consider the other one as their boyfriend/girlfriend, and assume the relationship is going to be exclusive — there’s no need to define it.
Even the most feminist of women will undoubtedly appreciate this, no matter how hard she tries to deny it.
Even though men still have to play the part of the ultimate gentleman, more and more pressure is now being placed on women to perform during the first date.
She is no longer required to just smile and look pretty.
Stimulating conversation, a sense of humor and inherent intellect are now expected from the modern woman.
Instead, spend time with one another’s family: get to know your date in a family context; go out as part of a group; get to know what your date is like socially.So follow these rules and make sure your companion keeps them too, then you will be able to look your children in the eye when you have to guide them on their way to marriage and family life.If your companion isn’t willing to keep the rules they are not the person you thought they were, and if they are going to let their passion run wild with you, then maybe they would have done that before -and are not the Catholic you think they are.Outside of the above, if you’re really interested in going out with a girl, just ask. Chances are, she’ll be relieved that you took the reins – especially if she’s been giving off the vibe that she’s as into you as you are into her. Whether you’re at a coffee shop or a hotel, people will be there to hear any cries of distress.Again, there’s no hard and fast rule about where you might decide to crash for the night, although there are definitely some things to take into consideration. Play it safe when you decide the best place for you to spend time together. Don’t mention how much they broke your heart (or worse, how badly you broke their heart).